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| Tuesday, October 13th, 2009 | | 12:30 pm |
I had a moment last night when I was talking to Pax.I was trying to explain the concept I have of my memory.It's like these circles and cycles of vignettes.The only good metaphor that I could come up with was a crystal chandelier.The ones with rows and rows of crystals,hung in a circle,it's like the cycles and eras are the tiers.That in much of my memory,things stood out,but they are small crystaline images of what was happening.The air between the inividual crystals are the times that I just don't recall,the times when I was killing time,making pay,most of the drudgery.But the small pieces are so clear and multi faceted.The way that I felt at the time,the smell of it,the way that light played on the objects in the room,the air quality,the pysical sensation.It's why the smell of a Nat Sherman cigarette will take me right to a place in my head that I could describe for you,even now,with such clarity and detail.It's all caught together,and it looks different at different angles,depending on the way that you shine the light. Alot of light gets thrown around in the fall.Alot of memories come flooding back to me wherever I look.I think that I need to do some visiting with old friends.It's about that time.I definitely need to go sing for a few people.What else are rainy days made for?Well,visiting and stretching.I am having a hard time getting out of bed lately with all this rain.I have little motivation.The only thing that will get me moving is the prospect of fun to be had.I had the realization this morning that maybe I am solar powered.I think that I might need a little something to make me feel like I am wasting time sleeping.The weather report keeps promising this mystical three full days of sunshine....it's always about three days away,three days full of showers and thunderstorms. I admit that I love me some thunderstorms,I just never get anything done during them.It's when you drink your hot tea and you listen to Nina Simone or Fleetwood Mac,or Leonard Cohen in the afternoon.At night you smoke on the porch and watch lightning.Some of the most intense conversations I have ever had were on a dark porch during a thunderstorm.I know that I just have the "Grey days" right now,it's just the unrelenting cloud cover that makes me feel like I just want to sleep for a year.I think I will settle for a hot bath instead. | | Monday, May 4th, 2009 | | 7:35 pm |
I just want to dance in your tangles,to give me a reason to move...
The world is a awash in the smell of newly bloomed flowers and rain.I cannot wait to get back on the road.18 days.That is all I have left until I can fall in love with the highway all over again.I am going with my roommate up into the mountains to visit one of our sisters who lives up there for a couple of days.I am sooooo in need of a few days off from everything.I have been working my ass off,trying to get everything covered.At least business has been fairly steady.I have had a couple of new clients from referrals and that is always a good thing.Expanding my clientele.But I really would like a few days to not do any work at all. I have to say that I am loving the spring so far.I have gotten to see some good people and I have been trying to strengthen some old friendships that I had let sit for way too long.I have been letting go of some old tensions and I am finding that by and large,it's better to just put the wrongs in the past and look at people for what I love about them.Bygones and all that.Things are good for the most part and the things that are not so good are being worked on,creative solutions are simmering until it is time for them to spring into action. I am also really really in love with my new/old home.I realize that I didn't take advantage of the kitchen at all the first time I lived there.I LOVE MY KITCHEN!!My inner cook has been coming out to play and I am thinking of trying some new recipes,so you folks with the good ones need to send me some.I am even thinking of trying my hand at baking(which has never been my forte)but you don't learn if you don't try.I have also been spending a little time on my porch,watching the planes line up on the nights that I go home from work.It's like my little decompression chamber before I even walk in the door.I am really looking forward to having people over for my party later this month.It's the first time in 5 years that I have had a place large enough to throw "that"kind of party.My last birthday party was when I lived downstairs on Evergreen.I started it in tears,but it ended up being one of the best parties that I have ever had.People were still drinking on my porch when I woke up the next afternoon.I am just glad to be out of the little matchbox apt I was in on cooper. okay,back to work.send me recipes,and come to my party on the 29th.You don't even have to wear a toga or a costume or headgear or anything.just bring yourselves and your booze of choice and things should get interesting. | | Thursday, April 16th, 2009 | | 1:23 pm |
| | Wednesday, April 15th, 2009 | | 1:41 pm |
sometimes I want to be landlocked and working in a bakery....
I think that I might have made a really big mistake talking to my ex-wife.I stopped talking to her a few years ago.I thought she might have grown up,or changed or something,but I was obviously very wrong.I admit that mainly,I was just curious as to how she turned out....but she is worse than she ever was before.I stopped talking to her in the first time because she acted like I owed her something,and I don't...not by a long shot.It had not even been 24 hours that we have been talking again and she bombards my facebook and my cell phone to ask me if I can cut her hair,I tell her that I am booked up for 2 weeks,and she asks if I am free after work.I told her firmly that I am not.I expect that she thinks that she will not have to pay for my services...this is not how things are going down.even my best friends have to come up off some trade.I am going for a massage this afternoon in trade for a haircut I did on Angy.(thank god,since my legs have felt like shit lately,and she is the goddess of massage)Anyway,I am thinking that I might go back to ignoring my ex-wife again.it's easier than dealing with a drunk.It's a shame too,because I miss the way that she used to be. In other news,I am thinking that I might start writing vignettes.I think that it's the only way that I am going to transition back into serious writing rather than journaling schlock like i have for the past few years.I have to find a way to just get three done a week and post them in my blog on blogspot.I read a post on one of the blogs that I follow,she is an amazing writer,but she mostly just writes about her book these days.It's a shame,but she did a post recently that was just 3 sense memories from the past and they were fantastic.I thought,it's a an easy way to write,nothing too long,just a moment in time and what it felt and tasted like,the smells and the look of it.I guess that all those little moments strung together form the picture of a life.I think that might be the best way to write my memoirs.Everyone tells me that I need to do it....but I would like them best scattered.I am that type girl.le sigh. Some days I just wonder if I will ever remember today in the way that I remember those other days.If anything around me is making an impression at all.I know that the fact that I don't do nearly as many drugs now has some profound effect,I just don't know exactly how.Was I experiencing things more profoundly when I was on that many drugs?One would think that you would notice more things if you weren't altered....or maybe the awareness of everything around me tends to blunt the ability to notice the tiny details of life.(funny note*the good times are killing me* came on the pandora radio just now,there is order in the universe)I guess it's just a case of burning bright and fast.I have learned to temper myself over the years.I now know that living faster = dying faster,so I try my best not to indulge in moth behavior. OMG this just got me. *** You say I took the name in vain I don't even know the name But if I did, well really, what's it to you? There's a blaze of light in every word It doesn't matter which you heard The holy or the broken Hallelujah Hallelujah, Hallelujah Hallelujah, Hallelujah I did my best, it wasn't much I couldn't feel, so I tried to touch I've told the truth, I didn't come to fool you And even though it all went wrong I'll stand before the Lord of Song With nothing on my tongue but Hallelujah ***************this song beats a hole in my head that looks like a star from the inside************ So many things have been going on lately.I am getting used to living with someone again.It isn't hard for me to live with Pax though,she and I fall into a rhythm eventually.It's been slow going,staying motivated to get the house together,but we have both been working alot.I have been trying to spend more nights at home.I feel like I need the time to sit and mend whatever damage I have taken on after being so careless with myself for the past year or so.I haven't been Looking after myself spiritually.It's gotten to the point where I will realize that I need a reading and wait a month to do it.That is a bad sign.It's like it's one of those things that I procrastinate about.I have to get back on top of things again,my timing has been for shit as well.However,I think that I am about to try and get a couple of my old gay friends together in New York City.I am sure that they would love eachother,or at least love to love eachother.My Yenta skills are going nationwide.God bless facebook.People have been coming out of the woodwork,but it's really exciting in a way,because there are alot of them that I dearly love and just lost over time.I have realized that the true reward of trying to be good to people for most of your life is that most everyone that has left your life left still loving you.There are so many amazing people that I feel like I have picked-back-up-where-I-left-off-with.It's beautiful.Like the years have only changed our circumstances, not the way that we feel about eachother.Maybe that is why I am having the onslaught of memories lately,no? well,that last stream of thought lets me know that it is time to stop smoking and writing and get on to my day.be good to eachother.........and be sure to be sure before you talk to your exes.(the radio serves up *the weight* by The Band,perfect late start morning music for those in the know) | | Thursday, April 9th, 2009 | | 5:49 pm |
What Big Cat Are You? | You Are a Cougar | You have more strength than most people, and with it, the ability to inflict a lot of harm. Your power gives you confidence, and you find leading others to be easy.
You believe that you need to the best, and you are very driven to excel. Most people immediately admire you, but some people feel very envious of your abilities. | | | Thursday, April 2nd, 2009 | | 1:21 am |
my favorite sound you make
guess who is now totally in love with pandora radio....it's like it KNOWS me man!!! So,long overdue update.I am settling nicely into Clark House and I am working all the fucking time....but I am intensely happy.I have been trying to stay out of the bars,because I am tired of only meeting people who are in "impressive" mode.I mean,when you go out,you are trying to impress people,but it just stands to reason that you never see anything real out of someone when they are drunk in a room full of drunk people that they are probably thinking of bedding.I don't mind tying one on with friends that I can talk shit and laugh with in bars,or picking up someone to go home with,but as far as actual socializing goes,I have been going to visit people and meeting people in the oddest places.I have to say that you get a much more accurate first impression of someone when they are in the library in their "lahas" than in the bar in slut clothes.it's my social experiment of the month. Spring is making me feel like I am on alive overdrive.I took a little trip out to teh woods to see the sunset over the river this evening and I swear,the scent of the wisteria was intoxicating.The trees are budding to there is this wild overlay of lime green on all these bare trees and the dogwoods all going nuts blooming their asses off and being so amazingly visible through all the other trees trying to catch up.The river was huge,like magestically huge from the runoff from all the storms that have been sweeping thru the country and I suppose it won't be long before it overtakes the road to the boat dock.The moon was gorgeous. Alright,enough going on and on about spring and drunk people,I gotta put my ass in bed.love to my peoples. good night Current Mood: ???! | | Saturday, March 21st, 2009 | | 1:53 am |
| | Friday, March 6th, 2009 | | 6:11 pm |
| | Thursday, March 5th, 2009 | | 11:02 am |
OMG
I am happy that I finally have the internet at home...yay!I had five days off work and I fell like I have been hit by a hammer,because it's all been nonstop moving and then taking things apart,or putting things together (furniture requiring assembly is sooooo not my friend)or moving boxes around the box fort or doing massive amounts of laundry.I feel like I need a vacation from my vacation.I was ready to start singing old spirituals or something fitting for a chain gang or a railroad crew.BUT.....I am finally moved into Clark House and I remember why I love this place.I had alot of help from wonderful people to get everything here and hopefully soon I will get to see some of them again. The other strange side effect of the move is that I have been waking up really early and then getting sleepy around 10 or 11 at night.I feel like a fucking farmer.I need my night schedule back or I am gonna be miserable at work.However,I think that the addition of drapes on the east facing windows in my bedroom will help with that situation. In other news,there is no other news,because I have been eaten by this move.Hopefully I will get to see some of you people soon.lovelove Current Mood: crazy | | Thursday, February 26th, 2009 | | 6:13 pm |
my most serious gratitudes....
to the folks that helped me move all my shit yesterday.You are all gods/goddesses in my book.I love you all eternally. in other news I am so exhausted and sore all over that I want to just find a hot bath and stay there for a few weeks,but now I have to unpack......I keep telling myself,two more shifts and I am off for 5 days....I can do it then.But it looks like I might need to get on it a little sooner than all that....a shame really,because I feel like I could sleep for 2 days straight.(insert jaw cracking yawn here)I really couldn't have done it without wonderful friends who are willing to deal with my heavy-ass beongings.Who knew I had all that stuff crammed into that tiny little studio???? Current Mood: exhausted | | Tuesday, February 3rd, 2009 | | 11:58 am |
i am so super disgusted right now!!!!!I wait another hour in the line at the inspection station and they won't even inspect my volvo because the bitch says i am smoking.at least the last time they actually inspected her.So yeah,not fucking pleased.everthing else is going so well.i have loads of hate right now.so....if anyone has any advice about cheating inspection,please let me know. | | Thursday, January 22nd, 2009 | | 9:31 pm |
I am currently trying to drum up $ to move out of my matchbook sized studio,soooo...... If you could possibly dream of needing my services,let me know!!!!I would love love love to beautify each and every one of you in whatever way you desire.I will even work on hooves again!!!!just because it is winter,that is no reason to let your feet go ladies,spring will be here before you know it,why not get on top of those tootsies now!! I know that some of you out there are running around with mile long roots,why not get some pick me up color done.nothing better than a little color to brighten up the winter blahs.Maybe some nice highlights to get things cookin'.Those of you running around all shaggy headed,come on in and get that shit shaped up so you can once again walk about town knowing,without a doubt,that you look smokin'.I just want to make you all look as hot as possible,cause it is cold as hell out there and what better way to make people go home with you(to warm your bed) than to be out and about looking your best! also available for readings,because sometimes,you just need one. if you are already my client,you have my number,if you are not,then email me @ rollavita@hotmail.com xoxox | | Wednesday, January 14th, 2009 | | 7:20 pm |
all hail the healing powers of angy!!!
I am so relaxed.didn't realize how badly I needed that massage.been really busy lately.everyone cross your fingers that I get the apartment that I looked at today,and that the business offer that came to my table today pans out to be lucrative.I love you people,be well. | | Monday, January 12th, 2009 | | 9:54 pm |
| | Monday, January 5th, 2009 | | 9:53 pm |
these are a few of my favorite things....
the blue of the sky about 15 minutes after the sun goes down on cloudless days. swimming at night,especially in lakes or the ocean reading and smoking in the bath red apples laughing with my sisters the distant sound of trains late at night when my windows are open talking shit to my cat(he takes it so well) thin mint girl scout cookies that have been frozen mixing up scents high thread count bed linens (i am a fabric whore) going to parties where I know and really love everyone there the right color red camping (especially with Deb) taking photographs living in midtown finding and adopting things that have been used and given away or abandoned wearing chinese doll shoes nan goldin's photographs driving late at night (sanctuary) pecans making up haiku slow dancing songs in french juxtapos magazine conversations with strangers getting lost and finding my way back throwing things the botanic gardens painting listening to music in my studio at night with the lights out and the blinds open talking to someone while sitting in a parked car in winter(usually drinking for warmth) swingsets on cloudy days the 1970's my volvo!!! making mixed cd's(since I don't make mixed tapes anymore) for the people I love shuffling through dry fallen leaves that make swish-swish-swish noise Steely Dan (particularly the song "deacon blues") Gustave Moreau being barefoot the way that the air smells when I take a hot bath after I've been wearing china rain oil calico patchwork being alone my bed!!! writing and smoking in the mornings getting off work and knowing that I have the next day off the "house is clean,laundry is done,kitchen is stocked" feeling stained glass windows in cathedrals ruby port wine and chocolate or tawny port and those little mandarin oranges | | Sunday, December 28th, 2008 | | 9:08 pm |
it's so cold in alaska.....
Or at least it feels like alaska in my place of work.brrrr!I don't get it,it was soooo warm and nice over the weekend :( at least I had a good time while it lasted!I got to hang out with my Patrik for a few days,which was rather luxurious.We ran around and hung out with the ladies,enjoying the beautimus weather. Having the windows open was soooo nice. The holiday went by alright,despite the fact that I was pretty much working my ass off the entire time.It really didn't feel like a holiday at all now that I think about it.But i haven't had an actual x-mas or thanksgiving in five years now,you would think that I would be used to it by now.I DID get to spend a little time with my mom on x-mas eve,which was really sweet.She even shoo'ed my brother away so that we could hang in relative peace. I also went to a couple of good parties in the last few weeks and got to see some friends that I hadn't seen in a while.I keep thinking that there are so many beautiful people that I love sooooo much,but I don't get to see them all the time.I think in 2009,one of my goals will be to get out and see more of them,and to drag them around with me to see other friends. Anyway....I didn't get any x-mas food,which blows,because it's been years since I had any.But I got a couple of really thoughtful presents,and I think that pretty much makes up for the lack of roasted chicken, mash potatos and greenbean casserole.I made do on x-mas night with half a cookie @ the faery farm, beers @ Side Street after work,and the most amazing bagel ever over at Mike's house.I am not sure if it was so amazing because I was so very hungry(and grateful that someone was feeding me)or because I was so very high.Either way the nature show that he put on the television made me stretch my mind out and I played with the cute gray cat that lives in his house.All in all not a bad way to spend x-mas.I used to spend it holed up in bed with a bottle of whiskey and a bad attitude. So now I just have to get thru New Years.I have made a few goals.I don't really make resolutions.I decided that I want to see a larger variety of people,to learn how to cook Indian-style dishes,to shake my ass more (it gets the blood flowing,makes you warm and loosens up the joints to dance first thing in the morning...it also improves your outlook on the day,just have to get back in the habit)I have also been thinking that I might be looking for a better(read bigger) apartment this year,because I miss throwing parties,and I need more room so I can make a studio space and start painting again(I miss it)That is all I have up with so far,But I figure it's a good start. I am considering 2008 a "learning year",or at least that is the nicest label we could think of to explain the last year.Some really amazing things happened,but I cannot overlook the things that tested me,and the losses of loved ones.I am hoping that 2009 will be a bit more upbeat and hopeful.We still haven't come up with a name for 2009 yet.I am open for suggestions. | | Wednesday, December 10th, 2008 | | 1:02 am |
| | Monday, December 8th, 2008 | | 8:16 pm |
| | Thursday, November 27th, 2008 | | 5:35 pm |
Well.it's that time of year again.The holidays are apon us and I am working(and sick as a dog :<).I always end up having to work on thanksgiving,and xmas is around the corner.I will be working that as well and new years day.However,I am very thankful to have a job at all right now with things the way that they are.I am thankful for a lot of things.I am really thankful for the vacation that I just took with my fabulous sisters.I am thankful that I got to spend some time with ms.Raven and the Heathen and Wolfboi for a little while last night(it's tradition)I am thankful that I have so many amazing and wonderful people that love me and that i have so many good people in my life to give my love to.I am thankful that our country has a real opportunity for change.I am thankful that I still have my mom.(it's been a rough year for her)I am thankful for my tiny little home and my willful,but lovable cat.I am thankful that I have my Ursula,she is a blessing after taking the bus so much and being infuriated with MATA's incompetence.I am thankful for my freedom and I am thankful for my health.I lead a good life,I try to help others when I can and keep good energy around for the taking.For all these things I am thankful. | | Friday, November 14th, 2008 | | 2:29 pm |
Sometimes I wonder.I am always making a past behind me.That sounds retarded,but understand me.I wonder if I am doing enough to make stories for later in life.I know that a little calmdown happens in the thirties..but I feel like that is something that happens to people who have babies and get shackled to a mortgage.I don't see any reason that I should not be out making my history.I cannot handle alcohol the way that I used to,but I am considering that a good thing since I also now have a way lower tolerance to alcohol,I am a cheap date.I guess I am just feeling hemmed in because it's all cloudy for the 4th fucking day in a row!!!feh!!! It did not,however,keep me from going to Nashville with Angy to see Amanda fucking Palmer.It was nasty and raining hard as hell when we were driving out Wednesday.After Jackson it cleared up for most of the drive there. We were so happy to see Patrik when we finally made it thru the city to his house (after getting considerably lost and heading to a rather finky looking part of town)that we fell on him with hugs and kisses on his absolutely intoxicating and ivy covered porch.We met his sweetheart of a roommate,Steve,and they gave a tour of their wonderful little home.It's kinda cocked back and to the side,and on an mindbendingly large lot of land,so that when you sit on the porch,or the back terrace,It looks like you are in the country.....but you are actually all up in the city.We were sooo happy to be out of Angy's truck.Patrik and Steve showed us this amazing little cuban place(that had the most savory greens I have ever tasted) AND the name of the place completely escapes me. I am going to insert at this time that Patrick is possibly the best gay-boyfriend ever.We love eachother intensely, and it will never get fucked up because it is unconditional.If you have even one friend like this,then consider yourself the luckiest person ever.HE WROTE OUT THE DIRECTIONS TO THE VENUE AND THEN ANOTHER SET FROM THE VENUE TO THE HIGHWAY HOME!!!!!!!!!This one little gesture has been earmarked for a shoe in on for "sweetest thing anyone has ever done for me....really" I am also going to insert that they would have worked marvelously if the CMA's had not been going on that selfsame night,so that there was actually a road block and a cop where out course took us.I direct angy to ignore the roadblock,because I am that kind of girl.We get stopped.I roll down the window to plead with the officer to give us directions to the mercy lounge.That officer then gave us the information about the CMA's being "about to let out" which we found out actually means "this place is about to explode with sequins and terribly ugly men in cowboy hats,and traffic that will actually cut off your oxygen supply" THEN proceeded to give us the most direct route to the place we needed to be,so that we didn't experience the brunt of the explosion of country music fan traffic hell. We get to venue and there is no parking to be had,so we climbed this hill behind cannery row.On the way up the hill I get this mighty whiff of patchouli.This turned out to be a omen of things to come.We climb the stairs and walk into this really interesting bar.Great stage,wonderful lighting and possibly the best opening band ever. They are called Builders to Butchers.They are one jug short of being a nu-jugband.They sing something akin to old spirituals and old mtn folk,and smacks somewhat of the ever elusive "terror folk" genre.Their drummer makes me think of Animal,from the Muppets.They had a mandolin player.I was so terribly impressed,a funereal band that was not brass....though the percussion/whatever-else-was-at-hand-guy busted out a trumpet for one of their songs.I had to get the CD they were selling. Then out comes Amanda fucking Palmer.She comes out dead in the arms of the Danger Ensemble (this troupe of Australian performance artists)and is carried out her keyboard.Then she proceeds to play with motherfucking gusto.That woman beats the everloving fuck out of her keyboard.I hadn't seen her live before,I am awed by her showmanship as much as I am knocked out by her generosity of spirit.She really loves her fans.You can tell from her performance.Some performers are out there doing it for money,or for the lifestyle,or for the ego trip. I don't see that in her at all.She is doing it because she loves to do it.Those performers are the ones who give you a hundred million percent onstage.I now admire the shit out of this woman.She commits to music the way that never did.She was also playing with this fantastic violinist,also from Australia and his name fucking escapes me. The crowd in that place was a whole other story.It inspired Angy and I to come up with a new tagline for Memphis,almost like that whole "come to the darkside,we have cookies"....it's "come to Memphis,We use soap!" The funk of the hippies in that place....it nearly floored me.I was actually kinda happy with the permeating aroma of patchouli,because apparently it could have been much much worse.They seem to have a real different kind of style up there.I had some dude with a beard big enough to hide a possum in,leather pants,a red and black velvet zebra print jacket and a hounds-tooth trilby hat....he comes over and sits beside me on the wall and starts nodding.right in the middle of all this loud ass concert.At one point I was kinda propping him up against the wall,since if he fell off his barstool,he would swipe mine out from under me.I was not goin down like that.He actually woke up halfway for a moment,and fucking thanked me.He would applaud between songs though.It was the strangest thing. Angy was not pleased with the crowd,I think that they might have been crowding her.I was just holding up the junkie next to me.There was one song that Amanda played and it made me nearly cry.I also almost cried for a minute when I was propping up the nodding guy.I thought about the years that I spent nodding.I still think about heroin sometimes.But watching that....I was not crying because it was a shame to see someone that far gone...I was crying because I was grateful that it was not me.I was there in that place,I was there in the moment,feeling so alive.I wasn't nodded out,listening to it as if it were an old dream.I was crying because I was grateful that I have my full range of emotions back. Anyways...we had to leave because of time constraints.Getting back onto the highway was a beautiful thing.The drive back was not.There was pea soup fog most of the way.Angy was in a damnatory mood toward all diesel trucks,people that emit foul odors,and several varieties of small mammals.It was a really long drive back.On the way there we had been leapfrogging with some person who had BINAGIRL on vanity plated....and this elicited our interest....exactly what was it NOW????Was it a full grown by god Woman now??/was it a man now??? Due to darkness on the higway,and tinted windows,the answer to this question will remain shrouded in mystery.But on the way back,we couldn't have even read a vanity plate in that fog.Pure evil that stuff.We made in back by and by and I eventually just dropped everything into the floor in my dark apartment,walked out of my boot and fell into the bed.....exhausted.But I braved the funknasty weather to do it.I had some realizations. I hope to god that it is sunny for the drive to New Orleans next after week.I am ready to be on the road again. |
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